But, this morning I'm feeling passionate! A mom posted in my mamas group this morning "If I was a stay at home mom I would...(fill in the blank)" Some of the answers were workout more, grocery shop during the week, be happy, bake more, do crafts, etc. It seems many moms who work outside the home have a very idealistic view of what a SAHM does all day! I wrote a quick response on the FaceBook post, but now I am attempting to work through all my thoughts.
I have to admit, as a SAHM I sometimes fantasize about lunches out during the work day and having the chance to wear pretty, high-heeled shoes. I think how great it would be to run by the grocery store on my way home from work before I picked up the kids and pick up a few things without crying helpers. I think of going to the potty without an audience. I think of adult conversation around the water cooler at work. And clearly I think of the extra money we would have as a family! On the flip side, I know that work outside the home moms (I refuse to use the term working mom because we are ALL working moms!), or WOHMs, wish they could be present for all of the moments. They hate that someone else is kissing the skinned knees better. They want to be the one snuggling and playing with their babies.
Moms (both SAHM and WOHM) are up all night caring for babies. We keep our houses running. We prep dinner. We feed breakfast. We make lunches. We do the laundry. And all of this is on top of caring for little ones. Life isn't easy on either side! It’s rewarding. It's thankless. It’s wonderful. It's demanding. It's fulfilling. It's irritating. It’s revitalizing. It's exhausting. It’s fun. It's monotonous. It's challenging. mind-numbing. It’s all of these things, all the time. (Literally. ALL. THE. TIME.)
Being a SAHM is all I know. Every day I keep all four of us alive and no one burns the house down. Or at least they haven't yet. As a mama at home with three littles I get to see every milestone and kiss every boo boo. I get to hold my sons hand in the parking lot and steal hugs before nap time. I also get touched all day long and by 5:00 I am counting down the minutes until my husband walks in the door (and silently cursing him when he texts that he's "stopping at the store real quick" because we are hanging on by a thread at home!).The good days are oh so very good. But the bad days you can find me hiding under the dining room table. Or looking up flight schedules to...anywhere.
I don't know what the future holds for my career and whether I will remain a SAHM or put my new PhD to use. I do know that I will forever be a mom. Right now, I am fulfilling God's calling for me. I am devoting my every breath to raising Godly men. I live my life so that my boys can follow Christ. As Susanna Wesley (mother of Charles and John Wesley) said,
"I am content to fill [just] a little space for God to be glorified… No one can, without renouncing the world, in the most literal sense, observe my method; and there are few, if any, that would entirely devote above twenty years of the prime of life in hopes to save the souls of their children, which they think may be saved without so much ado; for that was my principal intention, however unskillfully and unsuccessfully managed."
This is my life. However unsuccessfully managed! This is the life of every Mom. We give everything we have to raise our kids. I think it is easy to see the heartbreak a WOHM deals with everyday when they drop their kids off with someone else. The WOHM gives everything. Perhaps it isn't as easy to see everything a SAHM does in a typical day. Maybe the struggles we have inside our own homes need shared. So I'm inviting you into my world today!
Tuesday, November 18, 2014 -- just an average Tuesday and I will document it all. Every wake up. Every tantrum. Every laugh. The first Day in the Life post is getting documented as you read folks!