Jul 16, 2014

confidence for three

Casey goes back to work tomorrow afternoon so we have been trying to squeeze in all the things before his paternity leave ends. I know I'm not supposed to overdo it after the surgery, but I'm feeling pretty decent. I am not in pain. And I need to get out. I'm not going stir crazy. In fact, I could happily hang out snuggling my trio at home all day. This is to help give me the confidence that life and errands and outings are possible with three babies.

I need a confidence boost that I can do what needs done.

I've been home alone with all three for a bit, and while it didn't go well, I know that I can handle it. But, I don't know if I can load them all in the car and get anywhere. Like play dates. And MOPS meetings. And maybe a Bible Study this semester. So, we've done a few "practice runs" while Casey is around and we can do it together.

We successfully ate a restaurant. We successfully went grocery shopping. And yesterday we attempted a fun day.

After naps we loaded up the car and headed to the Perot Museum. I have a husband who absolutely loves dinosaurs (he dreams of being a paleontologist) and the museum has a visiting exhibit on the worlds largest dinosaurs. The museum also has an amazing interactive children's area with a campground, a water table, a produce market, a climb-able cityscape, snakes and other small animals, and a dinosaur dig. Fun for the whole family!


We looked at the dinosaurs.
Davy wasn't impressed.
We realized just how small we are when we stood next to the sauropod bone.
And then we headed to the children's area.
Tripp loved climbing the bridge. Over and over again.
Davy played at the water table. And no where else.
But we didn't get very many pictures before this happened.

Tripp was playing in the farmer's market and climbed up into the bed of the produce truck. Their were quite a few other kids up there too. And one of them (very unintentionally) pushed him. Tripp has pretty much no balance/coordination right now, so he fell down the three steps and slammed his head into the corner of the metal wall.

This photo is from a previous Perot trip, but it shows where he fell.
He was on the platform in the far right of the photo.
His head hit the green metal post.

Terrifying. My heart completely stopped when I heard his head clang against the metal. I'm not supposed to be picking up the toddlers yet (because of the c section) but I ran over to my baby boy and scooped him up. The monstrous goose egg and straight blue/black line showed up almost immediately. And just kept growing.

The attendant in the children's area told us she was calling someone. We assumed she meant an EMT and so hung around and waited. Imagine our surprise when a security guard showed up. She asked if she could go make a photocopy of a driver's license and get started filling out paperwork for the incident report. Casey and I were so so disappointed in the museums response. We had no interest in filling out a report. The incident wasn't over yet! We didn't know if Tripp was okay. All we wanted was medical attention for our son! Needless to say, we refused to give the security guard a license or fill out her paperwork so we could head to the emergency room.


Even bigger goose egg in the car on the way to the ER.
Playing with toys in the ER.

At the emergency room, Tripp was given the all clear (but it took HOURS to get out of there!) and he is doing much better today.

We learned an important lesson though: When it comes to head injuries, danger signs are: an injury that goes in instead of out, vomitting, and passing out. If your toddler cries right away and doesn't vomit, he/she is probably okay. (Although I, personally, would probably still get a head injury looked at!)

I also learned that I am no where near ready to take three kids out into the world.

My "I can handle being a mom of three and still do fun things" confidence building trip didn't work.

My confidence wasn't boosted.

In my heart I know the boys and I are going to be just fine when Casey goes back to work. I know we'll figure it out. I know it will all work. God entrusted me to mother these three miracles and He will help me do just that.

I also know Tripp hitting his head had nothing to do with us having three kids. I was right there next to him. It could just as easily happened to a parent there with only one child.

But, despite all those things, I think we'll be weekday shut-ins for a little while and only go out on weekends or when I have help!



  1. So glad to hear that you are all doing ok. Hopefully you guys will get to practice going out on the weekends, you will be rocking all 3 boys in no time. There is always an adjustment period, I am pretty sure no one is like oh yeah I am so great with 3 kids right away. It doesn't happen over night, at least it didn't for me or anyone else I know. I remember with 1 I would drive to sonic just to get out of the house and a change of scenery that did not involve getting us out of the car. Have a great rest of the week.

    1. I still do Sonic naps some afternoons! Thanks for the encouraging words. I really appreciate them!