Apr 25, 2014

Twice the Love. Twice the Smiles. Twice the Joy.

Today I’m linking up with Twin Talk Blog to celebrate Multiple Birth Awareness Month.
 
If you are a normal reader of the blog you “know” the boys already and are familiar with our journey.

For those of you don’t, I’ll start at the very beginning.

As it is the last day of National Infertility Awareness Week, I’m actually going to start at the VERY beginning.
 
My husband and I are one of the 1 in 8 couples diagnosed with infertility. In 30% of cases, the infertility lies with the female, as it does in our case. (Check out this post for more infertility facts.)
 
I have PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) which means I don’t ovulate every month so we knew getting pregnant might be difficult and started fairly young. After a year of trying, we were sent to a reproductive endocrinologist (an RE). It was with this first RE that we learned I also have Diminished Ovarian Reserve (DOR) from Premature Ovarian Aging (POA). Basically, this means my ovaries are old and all of my eggs need walkers and have grey hair. (Read more here.) For perspective, the test used to diagnose DOR is called AMH and you want your AMH level to be AT LEAST above a 3. If it’s above a 1 you’re still okay. Anything below 0.5 and your chances of conception drop no basically zero. My AMH was 0.36 at the first test.
 
In May 2012, three years after we first decided to expand our family we did IVF (invitro fertilization) with ICSI (no clue what it stands for but it’s a more advanced form of IVF used for low sperm count or really bad egg quality). For our whole TTC (trying to conceive) timeline you can see this post. We went in with fairly low expectations but knew that further diagnosis of my medical issues required that the doctor see my body do a full cycle and IVF was the best way to analyze my egg quality and quantity.
 
It worked! On June 20, we found out that we were pregnant. (See our awesome photo announcement.) On July 3 we had our first ultrasound and we learned it was twins! (Another awesome photo announcement.) Although we made the decision to transfer two embryos, we were told we had a 5% chance of pregnancy and never expected twins! I blogged throughout my pregnancy and those posts can all be seen here. Let’s just say it wasn’t textbook and it wasn’t easy.
>But, on January 13, 2013 at 33 weeks 3 days gestational age Charles Casey (Tripp) and Davis Donald (Davy) entered the world. They spent 3 weeks in the NICU and came home on SuperBowl Sunday.
 
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To say we were instantly in love doesn't even begin to describe. They were small but mighty. They captured our hearts and forever changed us.

My very difficult pregnancy didn't leave me much time to worry about how I would handle twins once they arrived. I learned as a I went and at this point I'm pretty good at triage!
 
We frequently get asked if it's hard having two and I never know how to answer. I think anyone has a new baby gets thrown into a new and completely unexpected life. It's a huge adjustment and it's challenging. (In fact, I'm pretty much terrified of doing it again. Did I forget to mention I'm pregnant? Baby boy number three arrives in July!)
 
27w3d.
Left: December 2, 2012 with twins.
Right: April 25, 2014 with a singleton.
 
Twins are certainly a unique challenge but I don't have a point of comparison.

Twins are all I know!

When I hear the "you must be so busy" and "double trouble" comments I never know how to respond. My boys rough and tumble. They fight over toys. They randomly give each other hugs. They can't sleep if they can't see each other.

They already have a bond I can't describe. So, yes I'm busy. And yes, when one gets in trouble the other is close behind. But, I was thrown in to this parenting thing straight to the deep end with two babies! I don't know any different. I learned triage at the same time I learned how to be a mom.

My life with twins has been crazy. (Hence, This Crazy Cass Life!). It's a crazy, chaotic life. I'm busy. I'm exhausted. And this is the most joy-filled I've ever been. I love being a mom to these two boys. I feel so blessed that God saw fit to give us twins.

We waited a long time for these bundles of joy. We prayed. We struggled. And our hearts were truly prepared. And now Casey and I just look at these perfect blessings and can't believe we have the honor of being their parents. So when you say "better you than me," I agree. I'm so glad these boys are mine.

Part of me feels sad for our third little boy. I hope the twins bring him in to their little duo. I hope he is able to share in the bond and the love of this little brotherhood. Their is something very special about twins. Hopefully Irish triplets** share a similar bond!



 
**How did I not know Irish triplets meant three in three years? So what is it called when you have three in 18 months?!?!


 
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Thanks to all of the twin moms stopping by from the link-up to meet my little men!
 
I love to meet other twin moms through blogging, Instagram (@LexyJill), and twitter (@LexyJill). Leave me a comment with your blog and/or Intagram and/or Twitter. I'd love to get to know you! And if you are local to the Dallas area - lets do a playdate! I love playdates and getting out of the house and their is something really special about playdates with other twins!
 

3 comments:

  1. I found your blog off of Twin Talk. My blog is Twice the Smiles! It's funny that we both chose the same phrase for your post and my blog names, but both of our sets of twins were born on 1/13/13! <3

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    1. 1/13?! How fun! I haven't had a chance to go through the linkup and read all the blogs - but I'm ready for naptime tomorrow so I can go see everyone else's twins!

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  2. Thank you so much for linking up! What an incredible story you have (and congrats on baby #3)!! They are so handsome and I'm sure their little brother will be too! :)

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