Note: I don't know who Modern Eve is, although if someone posted a link Iwould love to read another housewifes blog! The day in the life is in direct response to this mornings e-mail (which inspired this whole post). I recieved an e-mail this morning in response to my I am a Housewife post from July which said: "Don't you think you are wasting space by just being a Housewife? How do you fill your days? You must watch so much television! I could never have a life as meaningless as yours is and just spend all of my time sitting around watching TV and shopping." The e-mail went on and on about what a waste my life in and how I must watch TV all day and not contribute anything to society. I wanted to show this person who obviously reads my blog (and judges me) what I actually DO. If Modern Eve also has a day in the life blog I apologize for unintentionally taking her idea. Because you posted as anonymous I am not even able to follow the link to your blog to try and find hers in your blogroll.
A while back I posted that I am a Housewife. Not a stay-at-home Mom (which I hope to be someday!) but a housewife. The post got almost no comments at all, but I got A LOT of e-mails in response. (Odd why not just post a comment)
Some of the e-mails were really sweet and mentioned a desire to do the same thing.
Well lets take this matter further. Let us sit and discuss the relationship that exists between the career wife and the housewife (not the stay-at-home mom but the housewife who makes the choice to stay at home regardless of the involvement of children). It wasn't that long ago that when I woman got married, it was assumed she would be a housewife. Think of the movie Mona Lisa's Smile. Set in the 1950s, these college aged girls don't believe that a career is an option. They are all attending this all girls college, not because they value the education or want a career, but because they want to find a suitable husband. Flash-forward to women going to college today and we make fun of girls who are "getting their M.R.S." All of a sudden the opposite is true and girls are being told having a career right out of college is the only choice. It used to be that girls couldn't choose a career over marriage, and now they can't choice marriage over a career.
Notice, I didn't say motherhood over a career, but marriage. (I am not discussing the merits of staying home with children and the choices and decisions that entails.) So, I ask, is the aspiration to be a good wife any better of worse than that of the woman who wants to work 120 hours as a successful investment banker (my previous job)? What about the woman who dreams of being a corporate VP or C-Level Exec? Or do the woman who dreams of being a writer or journalist? Why are those dreams any better than the woman who only wants to be a wife?
The problem is in the question. We think of it as
So, I ask, what's wrong with being a housewife? Without housewives (and stay-at-home moms) who would be the volunteer force of America? Who would run church meetings and committees? Organize meals at homeless shelters? Plan fundraising events? Housewives do a lot more than just take of hearth and home. They use the time they used to spend working to do good in the community. Why does that make someone think the woman isn't living up to her potential? You could say that women who work are involved in these same activities - they still volunteer - and you'd be right, many career women do volunteer and are involved. But the merits of being a career-wife shouldn't take away from being housewife.
If it doesn’t negatively affect your household finances and you can follow your dream of volunteering and working in the community – why not?
So in honor of this post: I will start a new posting series on my blog: A Day in the Life of a Housewife. It's still early morning so I can't finish today, but I'll start:
8:55 AM: Put Load of Laundry In
12:15: Go to Gym
1:40: Claudia let Dog Out
2:20: Finally Get Dog Inside - Get Ready to Take a Shower BUT
2:22: Father-In-Law calls - apparently Grandma Jane is coming today - and will be over in 5 minutes
2:30: Grandma Jane and Dad C arrive to see the house
3:45: They leave; I move to put laundry in the dryer
3:50: Dryer won't start --- day is not going as planned!!
3:55: Give up on the dryer and decide to enter blogland before showering (maybe it will make me feel better about my broken dryer!)
4:30: Finally take a shower!!!!
4:40: Husband comes home from work - I love Fridays when he gets to leave at market close. Notice that the market closes at 3:00 - we live 10-15 minutes from the office. He isn't so good at leaving!
5:00: Go to The Yap Tent Sale
6:00: Start Getting Ready
8:00: Dinner at Buca Di Beppo for a friends birthday -- followed by drinks at Nana's