Apr 9, 2015

let them be little method of potty training

A pediatrician in Oklahoma has a theory about potty training.  I know he's from Oklahoma and we have to forgive him for that.  Especially as a Texan, it's hard to trust advice from Oklahoma.  But basically, I'm in love with his potty training method.
He doesn't give it a name. It is just one short PDF
Before I describe his method, which I think I am going to adopt around these parts.  I have to confess that I am pretty much terrified of potty training two little boys at once. Let's repeat that.
Nothing about parenting, even parenting preemie twins, has intimidated me as much as the idea of potty training.  I know my boys are NO WHERE near ready for potty training yet. When I ask Davy if he needs a diaper he always says "No" even when I can clearly smell him. Tripp is a bit more compliant and will occasionally tell me he needs a diaper, but it's rare.  For the most part, the boys could care less if they are poopy and even less if they are wet.  (JMac is another story.  The baby hates to be wet!) 
I have gotten comments by outsiders about having three in diapers.  Comments that I "should" potty train the twins now. That they are too old for diapers. That my life would be easier.  Lots of opinion on what I "should" do.  Luckily, I'm the mom not these outsiders.  And I get to decide what I do.
So, I'm not potty training them.
I'm adopting the "Let Them Be Little" method of potty training. 
I am going to let my two year old twins stay young.  I'm not going to force them into anything.  I'm not going to confine myself to the house for a week and try and force it. I'm not going to take them to the potty on a schedule every hour for three days.  I'm not going to spend money on pull-ups.  I am going to wait.
  • I will be okay with diapers.  I won't make them an issue in our household.  If my child is in diapers it is okay. If all three of my kids are in diapers, well that's okay too. (It better be okay!  All three are in diapers!) 
  • I won't force the potty. The potty won't be something we have to do. It won't be a punishment.  It won't take away from the fun of the day. We have two potties.  They are sitting on the floor of the bathroom. They are rarely used.
  • In fact, the potty will be fun.  It will be awesome. It will exciting.  The boys are allowed to sit on their potties and read book.  I am trying to make it a fun part of the day.  The reality is right now, the potties just sit there. But maybe someday they'll be fun?
  • When they are ready.  Really ready. Tell me they are ready.  We will take away diapers. 
The average age for a boy to train is 39 months. This includes all those parents who push potty training and do it before age two.  So I know that we will be in diapers until AT LEAST age three.  And maybe even until four. And I'm accepting that.
So all you nay-sayers: This is the way it's going to be in my house.  My boys will choose when they are ready to use the potty. I have no doubt they will train before Kindergarten. I really hope they train in time for pre-school since a lot of the good schools don't change diapers. But we'll see.